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Your Life is Your Choice

By Luci Anya Fardo


Thanksgiving with my family was wonderful! I really enjoyed spending time with our blended families. It was such a blessing to be with all of the people I love so much.

I've been sick the past few weeks and it has been quite the struggle. I had put off going to the doctor for the flu or whatever I've had. I had eliminated gluten completely from my diet. My GI doctor told me to try to eat it for Thanksgiving and see how I reacted. My body reacted at 2 am that night. I broke out in my mouth, scalp, literally all over my body. Urgent care said I had ear infection, sinus infection in addition to the Celiac Disease flare-up. I left armed with medication. It has been a struggle to workout this weekend, but I did anyway. I listened to motivational podcast and thought about everything.

I could have laid down or said maybe I won't work out today. Everything in life is a choice. I have to choose to do what I am supposed to do. I literally show up and work more than what I'm required to. Even though I was sick I worked some two of my off days. It is not easy to always do what you are supposed to do.

This made me think about work and the excuses I sometimes hear from my team about why they are unable to work. The truth of it is we choose what means the most to us. You sometimes have to do things that are uncomfortable or painful even.

I thought today about what am I doing to divert my attention from my goals. It is easy to find the problem instead of the solution. I realized I have been whiny this weekend and that isn't acceptable to me. I want to be the person who is accountable for my action. I have the control over what I let in my life and what I don't. I am going to start auditing what I let in my life and out.

I also have to work on letting work not get to me as much. I need to focus on what I can control and just let the rest go. I am such a perfectionist that it is sometimes hard to realize that other people's goals and thinking don't match my own. I think I want an untarnished and unblemished face in the mirror. I am built from the imperfections along the way of my life.

I can remember when my first husband was a life we played the blame game a lot. We blamed each other for mistakes and things that had gone wrong in our life. We had been together since I was a freshman in high school.

When he passed away and I looked in the mirror and looked around at my surroundings and my life I had to make some tough choices. There was no one to blame from that point on except myself. It was something I wish I had done when he was alive, but its always easier to blame than to make necessary changes in your life.

I am in a different place in my life but every once in awhile I have to prevent lack of discipline from creeping back in. I have to make sure to take risks regardless of the opinions of others. The most beautiful thing I have experienced was in changing my life and picking up all the pieces and rising again. I discovered someone who had been there all along.

Belief and Execution. If you don't believe the future has value and the seeds of discomfort may one day bare fruit. You have to decide what you want out of life and actually do in order to be successful. The implementation and the transformation must begin. We move forward and discover how to evolve to overcome obstacles. This journey of life is something we have to travel and write our own story. You are the only one who can decide how your life turns out. Give yourself permission to create this life that wasn't there before.

I may be successful at some things and fail at others. There have been lessons in it all. The only time you only choose the right path is when you don't make any choices. I have the belief that I may not be the smartest person in the world or the most talented. What I do have is determination, motivation, and a lot of lessons learned the hard way. I am building this life that I have chosen. I am building myself up and evolving my life and this will transform my world around me.

It takes vulnerability to start on the bottom and work your way up again. I plan to live my life to the fullest and sometimes that is painful. You have to become worthy of what you desire. You have to earn it. I haven't reached all the goals I have set for myself. I will push through until I check all of my goals off my list. I will except the discomfort. Someone once said don't wish things were easier instead wish you are better. You get in life who you are and what you put out. There is no limit to what you can achieve. Sometimes the cost is quite high but keep going my friend because the reward is worth it.


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